“No one has ever become poor by giving.” ―Anne Frank
I’ve never been left disappointed after I’ve given a part of myself. I realize that that energy is never wasted.
It might be returned to me in the same way I sent it. It might be returned in a way I would never expect, but it always returns somehow.
Seems to me that whenever the season of giving rolls around, everyone remembers this. It’s like Thanksgiving; people remember to be grateful but they usually complain about what’s missing.
I’ve been like this when it comes to giving, but as the new year approaches, I’ve decided to give of myself more.
As a kid, I always wondered how it could possibly be better to give than to get. Logically, it didn’t make sense. But some things cannot be understood by the mind.
I saw it when I looked at my parents’ expressions on Christmas morning when they saw me happy with my gift. I saw it when I played my mother a song she loved on the piano just for her. I see it whenever I remind someone of the greatness they forgot they had.
But the desire to give really kicked in this year, which is ironic because this was the first Christmas I was by myself.
What’s not ironic is my theory as to why I’m so keen on giving for the new year and for the rest of my life. I religiously wrote in a gratitude journal all year and it’s really transformed my life, especially when I gave thanks for things that I didn’t want. Somehow things still came up roses.
Because of the blessings I received, I find myself compelled to give. I find myself wanting to go all out, even if my giving goes ignored or despised.
My personal edification has taken a backseat for the desire to edify others. And as I said earlier, I know my energy will not go to waste.
Mind you, I don’t do this only because I want to feel the joy of giving. I feel it’s my duty to. I believe that as someone who has been given so much, it’s impossible to not pay it forward.
Moreover, don’t think that giving is limited to being benevolent to a person. You could give to a cause or a discipline. You could do it for the culture. While these things may be abstract, the reverberations of your giving will be felt.
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” ―Pablo Picasso
But it seems to me that the ability to give is proportional to one’s devotion to gratitude. If you aren’t typically an appreciative person who is consciously giving thanks, it is difficult to give.
When you get something you really wanted, of course you’re thankful. Who wouldn’t be? It’s the little things, the minor victories in spite of some loss, and focusing on what is pleasurable instead of focusing on what you don’t like.
Focusing on what is bad is a nasty habit that pervades our world. While it is important to not ignore what is bad because sometimes we have to address what could hurt us, if you accept what is, you can maintain good esteem and still solve your problems. There’s no need to hate on it because that has never and will never solve anything.
But even so, why hate? It doesn’t even feel good! We do it because that’s what we learnt. It’s all unconscious. But if we take gratitude as an important facet of life and decide to be different, life will be different because you will be different.
It is when we have changed for the better that we can then transform the lives of others. The cycle replenishes itself as each person takes the gifts of others and makes gifts for others.
Going forward, I’m happy to be a part of this cycle. I look forward to seeing you in the cycle of giving and goodwill.