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Eartha Kitt Was Dead Wrong About Compromise
There are several reasons a relationship can fall apart. But the one that will be highlighted here is when one or both of the people in a relationship believe that love is a power struggle.
It’s heartbreaking but also head-scratching because if two people meet and are attracted to one another, why would that love devolve into a tug-of-war? The truth is that this happens all the time but especially to those who are afraid of losing themselves or their autonomy in a relationship.
This could have stemmed from seeing one’s parents enlist in a power struggle in their own relationship and this dynamic can play out in different ways in one’s own life. For example, there is the doting wife who does whatever the husband wishes and the child views this as problematic. Or a child could observe both parents undermining each other in order to get what they want rather than working for win-win solutions.
Another reason behind the fear of power struggles is one having their own romantic relationship where one’s boundaries weren’t clear and/or they did whatever their partner wanted in order to gain and keep their love.
But whatever the reason, it isn’t a healthy way of viewing any relationship.
In her 1982 documentary, All By Myself: The Eartha Kitt Story, there is a scene where the…
