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Don’t Ever Chase a Relationship
Once upon a time, a boy approached a great oracle seeking wisdom. The boy found the wise man seated under a tree and asked him, “Great oracle, how do I achieve my dreams?” The oracle replied, “Never chase them. It implies that they are running away from you.”
The boy, perplexed from the oracle’s answer asked another question, “How do I get a girl?” The oracle replied, “Never chase them. It implies that they are running away from you.”
Sometimes we want something or someone really badly and will do anything to get what we want. We think that our intense desire will make us get it.
Too bad that’s never how it works.
The reason people chase a relationship is because they think that the other person is above them in some way. There’s a power differential in the relationship dynamic and as a result, it’s unlikely anything will ever happen.
So not only is it super frustrating to show this other person that you want to start a relationship with them, you won’t even succeed in having it.
They are painfully aware that you want them. But because you have them on a pedestal, what are they supposed to do? Drop down to your level? They aren’t going to do that and neither would you.
