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Do You Fear the Negatives of Romance?
How escaping pain leads to pain
People are suckers for anything that presents itself as perfect. When we see two people standing side by side in unison and love, it’s hard to not want that. Hell, it’s hard to not be jealous.
What onlookers don’t see are the initial trust issues, therapy, arguments, passive-aggression, threats of infidelity, threats from family and friends, personal demons, incompatibility or even active-aggression.
That’s a fairly exhaustive list of challenges for just one couple to go through but many couples will have at least some of these things to contend with. Primarily, there will come a point when the honeymoon phase is over and everything that was once great isn’t so great anymore.
It is at that point that the couple have to make the conscious decision to accept one another as they are, instead of relying on biology or sexual attraction to be the motor to keep the relationship going.
But in order for both parties in the couple to achieve this, they must be people who grant each other intimacy. They must be able to expose who they really are and to be receptive to who their partner is when they become vulnerable.
When this is achieved, the couple is fortified and their relationship is almost bulletproof. I…
