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Commitment is Hard
But it is the only thing that makes sense
I think we take for granted just how odd it is for people to get into relationships.
You’re basically promising that you will be faithful to this person and stay together unless some major boundaries are crossed.
And maybe on the surface that seems fine, but you eventually have to ask yourself, “Why them? What cockamamie thing is this person going to do? Why do I have to put up with their crap? Why does my attraction to them wax and wane? What thing that I don’t value am I going to have to endure?”
It’s a lot like piano. You could learn it if you want, but if you’re not committed to being proficient, when you eventually meet obstacles, you will take them as messages to give up.
Being interested in something doesn’t mean that your interest is going to be consistent. But that’s a major issue when it comes to relationships today.
We jump into relationships with people because of the initial fire. And when the fire dies down a bit, neither party tries to fan the flame.
Then the fire dies out and people decide to stay in the cold dark room for some time before they pack up and leave for another fire, another relationship and another disappointing end when the fire is extinguished. Some never…
