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Are You Sure You’re Over Your Ex?
“If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson, The Infinity Sign
As she sat before me, it was clear that after seven years apart, she was still in my blood. I didn’t expect this, but I suppose no one ever does.
As I made my way home after our three hour conversation, a looming question I’ve asked myself occasionally was answered, and while I was happy to have finally figured it out, I was pissed because of the impending ramifications. I realized too that I had made life exceedingly hard on myself because of one decision.
No doubt you’ve probably heard of the studies that say that men take longer to get over their significant romantic relationships while others say they never really recover.
Well, I thought it was untrue. Now, the jury’s out and they’re not expected back anytime soon. While there is a way to address the suffering properly, you might be too young, naïve, proud or ignorant to do the right thing.
Against your best efforts, you may still trip yourself. At least, that’s what happened to me.
When we broke up in 2012, I knew what I had to do. Let myself feel bad and eventually it would pass. Simple to understand, harder to do but that was all that was…
