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A Relationship Isn’t Going to Get Rid of That Feeling
It doesn’t surprise me as much nowadays, but I remember when I was completely oblivious to the reality that when one is in a relationship, one will continue to experience the same issues they were having before the relationship began.
As a matter of fact, the relationship tends to make the situation worse because your partner will inadvertently trigger you.
I recently had back to back conversations with some friends about this. One friend is on the brink of something they’ve wanted for years but then began lamenting on how self-serving the opposite sex is.
I just told them that the entire point of attraction is to love the other person. You can’t guarantee that they’re going to love you back. And as much as we think we can persuade people, it doesn’t stop them from showing their true (and sometimes unsightly) colors.
Then you realize you’ve spent all this time trying to get with someone that you may not even respect. You were attracted to them, but do you admire or even accept how they live or who they are?
The only thing you can do is love people. That’s the only thing you can control. Don’t be a fool trying to control others because you might not succeed and furthermore, you become a sitting duck for others to control you.
