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A Poem about Marriage Perfectly Illustrates Romantic Interdependence
When we think about attachment styles, the ones we are concerned with are being anxiously-attached, avoidant-attached or fearful-attached. If we are secure-attached, we’re in the sweet spot.
Maybe you already know this but here’s a quick recap:
Being anxiously-attached is characterized by low emotional avoidance but high anxiety; avoidant-attached is having high emotional avoidance and low anxiety; fearful-attached is experiencing both high emotional avoidance and anxiety; and being securely attached means having low emotional avoidance and low anxiety.
The late, great poet Kahlil Gibran wrote a poem titled “On Marriage” that takes a position that probably most love poems don’t. It is emotion-driven but shrewd. The voice is emotive but not for its own sake.
You were born together, and together you
shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white
wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the
silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in…
