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A Counterintuitive Way to Stay Safe in Relationships
Probably the biggest fear one can have when it comes to romance is getting hurt. This could happen in betrayal, cheating, gaslighting and abuse of all kinds. People have had their lives ruined due in part to a partner’s bad behavior.
There was even a TikTok trend where people spoke about how their former spouse or partner left them and the emotional, financial and mental debts they left behind.
A friend of mine said this to me just a few moments ago about something totally unrelated: at some point you realize that being a good person is not enough for the world to treat you well.
However, that doesn’t mean that you go and become a nasty person because the world is nasty to you. Ultimately, you can do whatever you want. Free will and all that. But if you have the value of kindness, don’t abandon it. Because one more person turning to evil is one less person fighting the fight for goodness.
However, it’s a tale as old as time, isn’t it? Some kid gets their heart broken and they vow to treat men/women like crap because “that’s what they like anyway.” I don’t know how many times I’ve said it but I’ll say it again here. If people positively respond to you treating them badly, it’s likely they have low self-esteem. And if you give in to bad treatment, it’s likely you have it too.
