Published in Hello, Love·Aug 5Member-onlyMy New Favorite Definition of LoveHint: It’s not about self-gratification. — I’ve been fascinated by the topic of love for a long time and have come across some interesting and illuminating definitions for the concept. Some of them I wrote about here. Recently, I found a new one that is succinct yet comprehensive, sweet yet raw, largely self-explanatory but also potentially…Love5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Jul 5Member-onlyBeing Cautious of Red Flags is the Wrong Approach to LoveWhy bad people are irresistible while the good get overlooked — We’ve all had the pleasure of feeling a gravitational pull towards someone attractive. Everything about them was exceptional and awesome, and we had to have them. We’ve also had the displeasure of getting catastrophically damaged by these same irresistible people. Everything that was once amazing and special are now barbs…Love4 min read
Published in The Life Manual·Jun 29Member-onlyDesire Can Free You or Imprison YouThe three types of desire — For the longest time I failed to see how desire or wanting something could be a negative experience. Isn’t desire the very thing that leads to innovation, technology, growth and improvement? How could that be a bad thing? This wasn’t the first time I looked at a negative experience or…Self5 min read
Jun 24Member-onlyWhy It’s So Hard to Take CriticismI was going to start off by saying that I feel uniquely qualified to talk about this but then I remembered that this problem was a lot more common than I first thought. In a way, it felt kind of good to know that I wasn’t alone when it came…Self5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Jun 14Member-onlyHow to Date When You Hate PeopleHow can you connect with people if you believe they are beneath you? — When someone is called a misogynist, that’s a damning label. When someone is called a misandrist, my word processor puts a red line underneath the term because it’s rarely ever talked about. But when someone is called a misanthrope, people tend to welcome the label. Hell, some people proudly call…Relationships5 min read
Published in Change Becomes You·Jun 1Member-onlyHow to Never Take Things Personally Ever AgainIt’s liberating to know that the opinions of others don’t matter so much. — Whenever we call someone egocentric, egotistic or self-centered, it is never a good thing. That’s because, as social creatures, we will always frown on those who cater to themselves or who only think about themselves. That’s why as much as one might dream about becoming a billionaire one day, deep…Self4 min read
May 30Member-onlyThis is Why Perception Equals RealityA few days ago I had an urgent errand to run and a friend of mine said he’d help me to get to the place by 3 o’clock. It was a small window of time but it was doable. With the small window of time and the importance of the…Life4 min read
Published in The Life Manual·May 25Member-onlyHow Self-Love Ends the Chase for Unavailable PartnersI’ve written about the topic of unavailable partners a few times, but I wanted to cut to something that I’d like to express with more detail. How we’re raised plays a massive role in how we treat ourselves because that treatment is etched into our minds. These unconscious or subconscious…Love4 min read
May 19Member-onlyToo Many People Miss the Point of a Romantic RelationshipBecause romance is so driven by sex, psychology and neurological processes, people fail to see the light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to loving someone. When you get right down to it, that’s essentially the work of a lifetime. Not only do we strive to love…Love3 min read
May 17Member-onlyHate Cheaters? Here’s Why You Should Rethink That.While I was watching the 1969 film Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice the other day and having a laugh as each couple wrestled with honesty and their feelings for people outside of their marriage, I realized something. It’s something that isn’t really addressed because people accept it like…Love4 min read
