Jan 17Member-onlyThe 10 Types of AbusersIn his groundbreaking book, Why Does He Do That? abuse expert Lundy Bancroft categorizes the ten types or faces of abuse that he observed in his years of counseling two thousand men who were found to be abusive in their romantic relationships. While Bancroft did not focus on abusive women…Love8 min readLove8 min read
Jan 10Member-onlyWhy It’s Hard to Tell Someone You Like ThemI was talking to a friend the other day and she confessed that she had feelings for someone for a long time but didn’t know what to do with those feelings. I laughed because I was initially confused by what she said. Let’s face it. Typically, if you have feelings…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Oct 11, 2022Member-onlyWhy Friendship is Mandatory in LoveThe only way to know if someone can be a friend is to approach them as a friend. — You’ve probably heard the saying, “friendship is the foundation of a good relationship.” For those of us who have heard it, and believe it, ask yourself, “Am I actually living it?” When we meet someone we find attractive, are we gauging their ability to be a friend? …Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Oct 4, 2022Member-only“Would You Date Someone Like You?” Isn’t Deep EnoughI have been chastised for going too deep sometimes, but after talking it through with some folks, it appears that this isn’t one of those times. I noticed something that was too shallow and realized that it would impede its ability to help others. People often ask others who want…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Sep 28, 2022Member-onlyWe Don’t Understand the Purpose of ConflictWhether we like it or not, whether we want to admit it or not, conflict is one of the defining traits of eras, empires, institutions and individuals. Conflicts are usually the reason any of these things come into prominence and the reason they fail. As a result, it behooves us…Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Sep 26, 2022Member-onlyIs it Ever Okay to Break Girl/Guy Code?Within the domains of both male friendship and female friendship exists a certain rule book, guideline or code of conduct that is rarely ever spoken of unless it is infringed upon or one sees the threat of it being infringed upon. We know these codes of conduct as guy code…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Published in The Life Manual·Sep 23, 2022Member-onlyIt’s Impossible to Move Forward When You Are Stuck in GriefLike most people I’ve lost loved ones from death and breakups. The day my paternal grandmother died was one of the most difficult days of my life, but I never felt alone in the grief. My friends and family were by my side. Life went back to normal relatively quickly. …Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Sep 20, 2022Member-onlyWhy People Cannot Leave Abusive RelationshipsWhen empathy becomes pathological we cannot see straight. — Sometimes when we observe people in abusive relationships we wonder why the hell they don’t leave their abusive partner. Is the sex so good that they can’t leave, or is there some other incentive for them to stay put? Also, why is it that some people feel guilty for the…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Sep 6, 2022Member-onlyWhat Codependents Don’t Understand About Defending their PartnersIt’s a rough deal being codependent. You do almost all of the giving in the relationship and you take a lot of crap from someone who demands you adopt their way of seeing things, which means you have to abandon your own perspectives. Ultimately, you may even abandon yourself as…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Published in Change Becomes You·Sep 1, 2022Member-onlyThe Fear of Success ExplainedWhen Marianne Williamson wrote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure,” maybe you were like me and had a hard time believing it. Maybe you thought she was nuts. Maybe the notion that what we really fear isn’t…Self5 min readSelf5 min read
