Published in Hello, Love·2 days agoMember-only“Would You Date Someone Like You?” Isn’t Deep EnoughI have been chastised for going too deep sometimes, but after talking it through with some folks, it appears that this isn’t one of those times. I noticed something that was too shallow and realized that it would impede its ability to help others. People often ask others who want…Love4 min read
Sep 28Member-onlyWe Don’t Understand the Purpose of ConflictWhether we like it or not, whether we want to admit it or not, conflict is one of the defining traits of eras, empires, institutions and individuals. Conflicts are usually the reason any of these things come into prominence and the reason they fail. As a result, it behooves us…Life Lessons5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Sep 26Member-onlyIs it Ever Okay to Break Girl/Guy Code?Within the domains of both male friendship and female friendship exists a certain rule book, guideline or code of conduct that is rarely ever spoken of unless it is infringed upon or one sees the threat of it being infringed upon. We know these codes of conduct as guy code…Relationships5 min read
Published in The Life Manual·Sep 23Member-onlyIt’s Impossible to Move Forward When You Are Stuck in GriefLike most people I’ve lost loved ones from death and breakups. The day my paternal grandmother died was one of the most difficult days of my life, but I never felt alone in the grief. My friends and family were by my side. Life went back to normal relatively quickly. …Love4 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Sep 20Member-onlyWhy People Cannot Leave Abusive RelationshipsWhen empathy becomes pathological we cannot see straight. — Sometimes when we observe people in abusive relationships we wonder why the hell they don’t leave their abusive partner. Is the sex so good that they can’t leave, or is there some other incentive for them to stay put? Also, why is it that some people feel guilty for the…Relationships5 min read
Sep 6Member-onlyWhat Codependents Don’t Understand About Defending their PartnersIt’s a rough deal being codependent. You do almost all of the giving in the relationship and you take a lot of crap from someone who demands you adopt their way of seeing things, which means you have to abandon your own perspectives. Ultimately, you may even abandon yourself as…Love5 min read
Published in Change Becomes You·Sep 1Member-onlyThe Fear of Success ExplainedWhen Marianne Williamson wrote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure,” maybe you were like me and had a hard time believing it. Maybe you thought she was nuts. Maybe the notion that what we really fear isn’t…Self5 min read
Aug 29Member-onlyLife is Never What You Think It Will BeMan and woman make plans, God laughs. But God isn’t laughing because you made a plan. In fact, it’s good that you made a plan. It means you value something enough to want to experience it. …Life4 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Aug 5Member-onlyMy New Favorite Definition of LoveHint: It’s not about self-gratification. — I’ve been fascinated by the topic of love for a long time and have come across some interesting and illuminating definitions for the concept. Some of them I wrote about here. Recently, I found a new one that is succinct yet comprehensive, sweet yet raw, largely self-explanatory but also potentially…Love5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Jul 5Member-onlyBeing Cautious of Red Flags is the Wrong Approach to LoveWhy bad people are irresistible while the good get overlooked — We’ve all had the pleasure of feeling a gravitational pull towards someone attractive. Everything about them was exceptional and awesome, and we had to have them. We’ve also had the displeasure of getting catastrophically damaged by these same irresistible people. Everything that was once amazing and special are now barbs…Love4 min read
