2 days agoWhy It’s So Hard to Take CriticismI was going to start off by saying that I feel uniquely qualified to talk about this but then I remembered that this problem was a lot more common than I first thought. In a way, it felt kind of good to know that I wasn’t alone when it came…Self5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Jun 14How to Date When You Hate PeopleHow can you connect with people if you believe they are beneath you? — When someone is called a misogynist, that’s a damning label. When someone is called a misandrist, my word processor puts a red line underneath the term because it’s rarely ever talked about. But when someone is called a misanthrope, people tend to welcome the label. Hell, some people proudly call…Relationships5 min read
Published in Change Becomes You·Jun 1How to Never Take Things Personally Ever AgainIt’s liberating to know that the opinions of others don’t matter so much. — Whenever we call someone egocentric, egotistic or self-centered, it is never a good thing. That’s because, as social creatures, we will always frown on those who cater to themselves or who only think about themselves. That’s why as much as one might dream about becoming a billionaire one day, deep…Self4 min read
May 30This is Why Perception Equals RealityA few days ago I had an urgent errand to run and a friend of mine said he’d help me to get to the place by 3 o’clock. It was a small window of time but it was doable. With the small window of time and the importance of the…Life4 min read
Published in The Life Manual·May 25How Self-Love Ends the Chase for Unavailable PartnersI’ve written about the topic of unavailable partners a few times, but I wanted to cut to something that I’d like to express with more detail. How we’re raised plays a massive role in how we treat ourselves because that treatment is etched into our minds. These unconscious or subconscious…Love4 min read
May 19Too Many People Miss the Point of a Romantic RelationshipBecause romance is so driven by sex, psychology and neurological processes, people fail to see the light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to loving someone. When you get right down to it, that’s essentially the work of a lifetime. Not only do we strive to love…Love3 min read
May 17Hate Cheaters? Here’s Why You Should Rethink That.While I was watching the 1969 film Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice the other day and having a laugh as each couple wrestled with honesty and their feelings for people outside of their marriage, I realized something. It’s something that isn’t really addressed because people accept it like…Love4 min read
Published in The Life Manual·May 11The Silent Functions of AngerFor the most part, people hate anger. They hate how it makes them feel and they hate how it can lead them and others into dangerous and perhaps even irreversible actions. But as true as this is, there are some who claim to hate it but actually crave it. As…Self5 min read
Published in Hello, Love·May 94 Reasons Why Chasing Love Isn’t LoveWhen researching this topic, I came across two quotes that really summarized the two sides of this conversation. On the one hand, we have this quote from the novel Call Me Irresistible, which says, “Chasing after a guy who’s not interested in you will rip the hell out of your…Love5 min read
May 6A Day in the Life of an Anxious and Avoidant CoupleAs much as we’d like to believe it, love doesn’t conquer all. Despite a couple’s best efforts, if the two people are incompatible or have unconscious tendencies that pull them in different directions, their love for one another won’t be enough to rescue the relationship. Mark and Mary are crazy…Love5 min read
