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6 Trauma-Based Beliefs that Block You From Love
1. “There are no good men/women left.”
We start our list with a classic. The people who say that there are no good men left are often characterized as bitter and the people who say that there are no good women left often lean on methods of manipulation. These types of people are often stereotyped because they all do and say the same things.
Even when given examples of successful relationships spanning several years, the people who believe this thought believe that the relationship is a con and that the couple are secretly having the same problems as “everyone.”
The reason this belief is so prevalent is because when you look at the experiences of those who say this cliché, they really had gone through many painful experiences. Name a form of abuse, they’ve probably experienced it.
2. “Being with unavailable people is familiar and therefore safe.”
Humans fear the unknown. If you put people who are familiar with calamity in a situation that is safe, it will never feel safe because calamity is what is familiar. And whatever is familiar is safe. It is this programming that keep people stuck in patterns throughout their lives.
