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5 Reasons You Cannot Leave the Narcissist
Whenever the topic of dating a narcissist comes up, I have to always differentiate between people who have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and someone who is narcissistic — someone who is so self-centered that they are only interested in fulfilling their own desires.
It’s important to do this because two people could be dating a narcissist and because one is dating someone with NPD and the other is dating a selfish brat, the second person thinks their situation is no big deal.
Actually, it’s still a very big deal. Because the person who doesn’t have NPD is someone who is still going to ruin your life while continuing to exist in society as a relatively normal person to the naked eye. They appear as normal, but they definitely aren’t.
With that in mind, here are five reasons we struggle to walk away from narcissists.
1. Mirroring
People tend to bond with those who are similar to them. The narcissistic consciously or unconsciously knows this and will mirror your traits back at you. So really all they’re doing is taking the best of you, the things you love about yourself and giving it back to you.
They do this through lovebombing, which is the act of giving someone excessive attention and affection in order to win their favor. Some…
