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3 Benefits to Being Single
This is a post that should’ve been done a long time ago. As much as relationships can be amazing, there is a mistaken notion that being in a good romantic relationship is inherently better than being single.
That’s simply not true. Of course, you are free to believe it, but there are repercussions for believing it. Primarily, if you subscribe to that belief, it’ll probably be harder for you to get a relationship.
Why? Because you have put romance on a pedestal. If you don’t do this for friendship or family, why would you do it for romance? Because you have over-prioritized the romantic relationship.
We might’ve done this because the benefits of a relationship have been shoved in our faces a lot, so allow me to present some benefits of being single. In doing this, I’m not trying to dunk on romance. As you’ll soon see, the ability to enjoy being single is perhaps one of the best platforms for getting into a relationship that actually works.
1. Dealing with someone’s crap is hard
When you choose to share a life with someone, they get a little bit of your issues and you get a little bit of theirs. That includes their unresolved trauma, the unresolved trauma of their family members, their hopes, dreams and fears, their vices, their resistance to your assistance, their begging…
