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2019 Will Be the Year of Authenticity
Well, we’re one day in and I’ve already experienced several moments where I had to speak my truth, else be taken on a wild goose chase at best or to be disposed to someone else’s desires which don’t line up with my own.
Didn’t think it would start so soon though, but we might as well get it over with.
Given that I and so many people I know have had to let go of toxic relationships last year, it’s only fitting that this year would be about enforcing our boundaries and dropping the co-dependent crap that doesn’t serve us in any way other than to assuage the fear of being alone.
But it’s important to recap how we got ourselves into these messes, so here’s the outline: At some point in life we feared being ostracized, whether by our family, peers or society. It’s a primal fear to be abandoned. Millennia ago, if you were found to be upsetting the status quo, they’d kill you or they’d just abandon you, leaving you exposed to the elements.
So naturally, we’re incentivised to fit in and to want to fit in. Unfortunately, one can only do that for so long and no more. If you aren’t living your truth and in accordance to your values and moving in the direction of what you desire, you get screwed over for two reasons.
